After a long and beautiful love story, we don’t always have the desire (or even the strength) to turn the page. It is therefore difficult to start a new story. The simple idea of opening one’s heart again to someone who can break it seems impossible to conceive. So how do we know if our scars have healed? If our heart is ready to beat again for another person? Of course, there is no magic box that will give us a clear answer. And that’s too bad.
Especially since every broken heart has its own way of rebuilding itself. There is no universal remedy for this kind of evil. Each bandage is different for everyone. But don’t worry, even if scars don’t heal the same way, they will heal sooner or later. And when that moment finally comes, you will have that irrefutable need to rediscover the moments of love and tenderness you have in a couple. But are you really ready for a new love story? Here are the questions you need to ask yourself to find out.
Is my life stable?
Although the desire to start a new relationship is already a good step, it is not enough. You can never be happy and fulfilled in your new life if you haven’t yet found your place, your marks. Most of us think that stability comes when we are in a relationship. But it doesn’t! It is difficult to build a lasting relationship on a foundation that is still hazy or eventful. Some people think it’s easier to fall under the spell of someone who has managed to lift us up in life. However, it is always better to start a new love relationship on equal footing. That way, you can be sure to find true satisfaction and fulfillment.
But you have to admit that having to do what you want to do in your own image or what you really are is not easy. Most of the time we are used to always seeing our mistakes first. But you must understand one important point: if you keep rotten fruit with good fruit, the latter may be contaminated by the former. So don’t you think it’s time to leave your old ploughs behind? You have to devote a lot of time and energy to this. After that, you will feel fresher and more sparkling. The more self-confident you are, the less doubt others will have about you. Your way of being is the point that attracts or drives others away. So, before you meet your match, find yourself first.
Have I learned the right lessons from my old stories?
Life is well done. It allows us to meet new people every day. It gives us experiences that we never thought we’d have. It puts us in new situations. And what do we do about it? We learn from it. This is where you have to learn to be as optimistic as possible. That is, you must never blame yourself for all the bad things you’ve done, for all the depressions you’ve had because of your own mistakes, etc. It’s true, it proves to you that you are not perfect, but who is perfect anyway?
Life has many facets, so don’t dwell on the bad sides. You will see that this work of the mind is quite difficult, but that it is necessary. But that doesn’t mean that you have to erase all your mistakes with a big blow. On the contrary, you have to remember them. That way, you will have every chance of finding someone who will make you happy and not the other way around. If you don’t want to have the same results, you shouldn’t go through the same square again. And this new path can only be achieved if you are prepared to face your mistakes.
Have I managed to externalize my feelings?
It is often mistakenly thought that it is by keeping our feelings that we can better face them. And if you’re the type of person who thinks that the best lessons come from yourself, you’re not ready to change course yet. Throughout your life, you’ve gained a variety of knowledge from other people. Whether it’s from your parents, teachers, friends, colleagues, etc., you’ve learned a lot. So you need to quickly get back to your roots.
It is by talking about your feelings to another person (of your choice) that you will be able to relieve the pressure on everything that oppresses you. You can cry, talk, scream, laugh, empty yourself, etc. And if you don’t have anyone you can trust, you can always count on the magic of the internet and chat rooms. Without having emptied your bag first, you will never be able to move on. Indeed, the weight of your thoughts and feelings will continue to crush you. A new relationship means a new beginning. A new start means a new foundation. And so it goes on.
Have I really put my past behind me?
It is not a question of totally denying your old relationships. Besides, nothing prevents you from keeping good memories, funny anecdotes. If you’ve lived through a good story, it’s good for you. But have you really moved on? Do you still have feelings for your ex? Do you still have pain when you think back on the relationship? Do you regret the time that has passed? Answer these questions honestly.
Before you do, know that if a relationship has ended, there are reasons for it. People who don’t love each other can’t force themselves to stay together. Mutual feelings are very important in relationships. If you haven’t felt those little vibrations anymore, it’s time to leave you. Put this relationship aside and make room for the next one.
