Remote relationship: my boyfriend doesn’t communicate

Your darling is miles away from you and you can tell that communication is not his forte… How do you know what he’s thinking? And above all, how should you behave? We will try to enlighten you on these two questions.

Why does he not communicate and how do you know what he is thinking?

Maybe he doesn’t communicate because in his mind the man must be strong and not reveal his emotions. Damn societal conditioning! Maybe he has a lot of work, or problems he doesn’t want to burden you with. Maybe communicating hurts him more than good… The important thing if your darling is like that, is not to impose your desire to make him talk, it might produce the opposite effect… You will have to try to decipher the words hidden behind his emotions.

By his actions, his sweet words, he will try to bring you what you are looking for without using words. If you really want to have a discussion, you can try when everything is going well in your couple after an intimate moment for example, he probably manages to let go better. It’s not that your darling doesn’t want to talk to you or that he doesn’t like you, it’s just that he’s not used to it, that he doesn’t necessarily know how to do it. Don’t hesitate to make attempts during a moment of complicity. You will be more likely to get him to talk about his feelings.

How should you behave?

Putting pressure on him won’t help your business. On the contrary, take advantage of every moment with your darling and create magic in your relationship. You have to understand that expressing yourself is not easy for him but that this is not why he doesn’t like you. Be patient and inventive to give him confidence and make him understand that you are ready to hear what he has to say to you, that you are not his other relationships. It’s you and him and nothing else matters. However, be careful not to overdo it, it could make him run away or he could close up like an oyster.

The most important thing being to be happy together, with time, it will be easier for him to open up and let you know his feelings. Even if he is far away, try to build a real complicity and be stronger! You can also help yourself with the many applications for couples at a distance 

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