Beware of Distracting Movements
Your body language speaks for itself, so distracting movements must be controlled. A confident person will not spend time touching their hands and hair, for example. When you walk into a room and look down, it says a lot about your confidence. If you’re the type of person who takes a long time to find your position on a chair, it also says something about your inner stress. Distracting movements are those that you may not realize are part of the non-verbal language palette.
Watch Your Pace and Rate of Speech
It is always better to speak calmly and clearly to be understood. If you tend to speak too fast, you will not be understood properly. A confident person will put his or her words down and come out with meaningful words to inspire confidence. If you speak too fast, you will not be heard by your audience. I advise you to pay attention to your pace and rate of speech in order to have more impact in your discussions.
Your Movements Must Include and Not Exclude
When someone is talking to you and you cross your arms while listening to them: this is a form of exclusion, because you are in a closed position. If your face is closed, it’s the same, whereas a smile includes the person in the discussion. Our body speaks and will put itself in a position of exclusion without us really being aware of it. This is why we need to take a step back from our body language. The simple act of smiling and opening your arms in greeting can change the way others perceive you.
Practicing Emotional Openness
If you can change your body language, but you can’t be emotionally open, it will be counterproductive. That’s why, when you’re on a date, you need to focus on the person without checking your messages and notifications. When you are in a relationship with someone, you need to be able to be there 100% for that person.
Adapt to the person you are talking to
If you are in front of someone who is super dynamic, you need to be able to adapt to their pace. If you are in a recruitment interview, you will have to position yourself as a “mirror” to your interviewer. This means that you will adapt yourself according to the other person’s body characteristics. By doing this, you will get in touch much more easily. We don’t realize it, but when we are in a relationship, we tend to adapt our body language to the other person.
The body language can be adapted according to the circumstances and our interlocutors. We just have to pay attention to the way we position ourselves and respond to the messages of our environment. If you can follow the advice in this article, you will feel better in your body very quickly.
