Are you unsure about your relationship? Sometimes love alone isn’t enough to make a relationship work. We list the signs that your partner isn’t right for you.
A relationship can look many different ways – we’re all different and enjoy different things. However, it’s important to remember that there are differences between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship. With inspiration from Bustle, we’ll help you spot the signs that your partner isn’t right for you.
They can’t do anything without talking to you first
Sure, you should help and support each other in a relationship, but it’s important to remember that you’re both adults who are capable of taking your own initiative and making your own decisions. Of course, you should discuss and decide on major decisions together, such as a change of job or thoughts of moving.
He wants to do everything with you
It’s flattering that your partner wants to spend time with you, but it can be too much if you hang out all the time. It’s important to devote time to your own interests and hobbies, even if you’re in a relationship. Encourage your partner to do the same.
You compromise a lot to meet their wishes
In a relationship, you are a team, which means that both of your wants and needs should be prioritised. That’s why both parties have to compromise sometimes. If you feel that you are the only one in the relationship who has to constantly compromise and override your will, it’s time to talk to your partner about it. Wait for change, but if it doesn’t come, you’ll have to think about whether the relationship is worth continuing. It may be that your partner loves you only because the relationship works well for them.
You don’t have the same goals and vision for the future
Some big decisions and needs can change over the course of your life, such as children and marriage. However, if you know that you and your partner have very different views on what you want the future to look like and be, and you are both adamant about your decisions, then your relationship may not work. Love is important in a relationship, but sometimes it’s not enough.
He wants you to be his “everything”
One sign that your partner’s love is not good for you is that they are trying to isolate you from the outside world. Staying in good contact with family and friends is super important, and something you should prioritize your whole life no matter what your relationship status is. The fact that your partner wants you all to themselves could be a sign that they want to control you. If you recognise this, think about why your partner is so concerned or cares so much about who you hang out with.
They ask about everything you do
Hand in hand with the point above, another sign of a controlling partner can be that they are constantly asking you about what you are doing, where you are or where you are going. Of course you should care about your partner and you can ask such questions, but if it’s recurring and they insist on finding out perhaps several times a day, it’s a sign that the relationship isn’t that healthy.
