Know and keep your boundaries!
If a man you are in love with exceeds your limits, for example because he is constantly burdened with his ex-relationship, constantly has money worries or his company causes him stress and shows little interest in your needs, you should definitely tell him and address it when it becomes too much for you.
Don’t be a constant crybaby for a man’s problems or worries without him paying attention to your needs as well.
Make it clear to him that you are not his counselor. If you want him to fall in love with you, he must see you as the future wife at his side and not as a therapist or best friend. Otherwise, what often happens to a plaster when the wound is healed may happen to you.
be a challenge!
Never treat a man better than a good friend! Don’t do more than you would do for a good friend, and don’t take more from him than you would from a girlfriend. The fact that men like to make an effort for a woman should no longer be a secret. Still, it can’t be repeated often enough: If he’s into you, he’ll get in touch and do something about it. Period. The right mixture of closeness and distance is what increases the tingling sensation, especially in the beginning. If you are too easy to conquer, the interest will decrease. People love and respect especially that for which they had to make an effort, and so it is also in love.
It’s best to act as if you know he’s into you. This will save you from insecure inquiries and many mistakes that lead to a man moving on because he thinks he hasn’t found the best yet. Act like you know you’re the best thing that can happen to him: You deserve a man to respect, appreciate and value you. This way you can also behave more freely and confidently in his presence. Just try it out!
take your time! How to make him fall in love with you
Nothing inhibits more than stress and pressure. We lose our desire when we have to have desire. You can’t force someone to fall in love with you or contact you. Desire and longing arise from distance and detachment! There is no shortcut, directly into your dream relationship. Good things take time to grow.
If people feel stressed by others, this tends to lead to the opposite of the desired behavior. In social psychology, this states the law of reactance. If he has the feeling that he MUST get in touch because otherwise you will cause stress, then this will inevitably lead to the fact that he will want to get in touch less and less often or not at all over time.
give a man what he loves the most – recognition!
Against the backdrop of the male life question, “What do I need to do to die fulfilled?” it is especially important to us men that the woman of our hearts notice and value our abilities for what is important to us.
Men love women who give them respect and appreciation for what they DO.
To make a man in your presence feel like you know him and know what makes him tick inside and understand who he is, also tell him what you particularly like about what he DOES!
Find one quality that you honestly like and say, for example:
“I like how confident and determined you are in your job. I’m sure there are few men who are so dedicated to their success in life. I like a man who knows what he wants and is willing to work hard for it.” This is like balm on a man’s soul. Finally, a woman who knows what I do and can appreciate it.
Or appreciate an activity that he did for your love and that you are not comfortable with, saying, for example:
“Thank you for showing me the new software. You explain things in a way that’s a pleasure to listen to and I’m super knowledgeable now. I’m so glad I have you!” Use this opportunity to convey to a man: You understand him and know his insides because you appreciate what he does.
