Betrayal can tear apart even the strongest of relationships, but when there is love, forgiveness opens new paths and makes the relationship stronger. This leads to the question: should you save your relationship by getting over the infidelity?
Getting over infidelity and trying to restore trust in your partner is possible, but it’s not easy. Is it worth doing to save the relationship?
Adultery is as old as marriage. For a long time, men were allowed to be unfaithful with little or no consequence, supported by biological and evolutionary theories that justified their need to be unfaithful. But in modern times, a more progressive society has begun to condemn it because of the importance of healthy families as the foundation of society.
Dealing with infidelity is no easy task, and in many cases it can lead to the end of a relationship. But if there is interest on both sides to continue the relationship, it doesn’t have to end there. It’s about the attitudes of those involved, where certain attitudes are the basis for reconciliation.
Can you recover from infidelity and save the relationship?
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. It takes time and effort to build it, and yet it can break down in seconds.
Were you the one who cheated?
It is normal for the victim to go through periods of denial, shock, anger, depression, despair and confusion. And after the initial feelings pass, the person may experience the dilemma of whether to save the relationship by getting over the infidelity or simply ending the relationship.
The following two things should be considered to give things a second chance:
- Love
- Regret
Both the fact that you love your partner and he or she loves you back, and is sincerely sorry for his or her betrayal of you and your relationship, are very important reasons to be able to cope with the situation.
If you have decided to save the relationship, follow these tips:
Save the relationship by talking to each other
Communication is the key to healthy relationships. Sit down with your partner and talk. Analyse and talk about what went wrong. Don’t let your emotions control you.
Spend time apart to save the relationship
Taking a break from your relationship may be just what you need when you’re considering saving your marriage. Spending time apart can help you re-evaluate what the real problems in the relationship are.
Make changes
You’ve cried your eyes out, you’ve expressed how you feel and you’ve told your partner how you feel about their betrayal, but now it’s time to heal the wounds and move on. Depending on what reasons your partner had for cheating on you, try to make the changes that your relationship needs.
Seek marriage counselling
If, despite all your attempts, you have acted on the previous points and still can’t get over the anger, contact a marriage counselor. The suggestions you receive from this professional counselor can help save the relationship.
What are the causes of infidelity?
Although each case depends on specific variables, there are some common reasons why a person may be unfaithful to their partner:
Insecurity: feeling inferior to one’s partner and infidelity serves to confirm one’s worth in the love market and boost one’s self-esteem.
Monotony: Although the relationship is generally satisfying, one of the partners gets bored with everything always being the same and wants to try something different.
Is there a positive side to getting over infidelity?
It can be hard to understand this, but infidelity can also have a positive side. An infidelity can be an opportunity to get to know each other again and renew a relationship. Thanks to the chaos, some couples find a new beginning and can suddenly have deep, honest and open conversations that they haven’t had in decades.
Infidelity can have a dual perspective. One is that it caused harm and betrayal. The other may be that it has created growth and self-discovery. So it is possible to salvage a relationship after infidelity, and start over on a new path.
But remember that in order to recover, it is important that both parties in the relationship are interested and willing to make the relationship work.
