At the beginning of a relationship, everything is usually more than perfect. You want to spend every free second with your partner and can’t stop raving about them. Many of us wear the rose-colored glasses even longer than it would actually be good for them. But sometimes there comes a point – for some after years, for others sooner – when you realize: “Hey, something’s not right here!”
Then you have to ask yourself what the relationship actually means anymore and if it is still what you want! Maybe you’re already on the verge of breaking up? In any case, there are some statements by which you can clearly recognize that your love is about to end. So be warned if you hear one of the following sentences:
Man, this is all really annoying!”
Maybe this statement was made in an argument or during a discussion. Nevertheless, you don’t say something like this without a reason. If your counterpart makes such a statement to you, you should definitely respond to it and ask what is meant by it. This is the only way you can work on your relationship and turn things around. Otherwise, your relationship may be on the verge of ending.
“I can’t tomorrow. I already have something else planned.”
Again: Basically not bad that your partner* plans without you. Everyone needs their own space, even in a relationship – there’s no question about that. It only becomes critical when your partner stops letting you in on the plans and talking to you about them. Let alone if he basically prefers to spend time WITHOUT you. Then it’s probably more than obvious that the feelings have waned …
“You should have just done that differently!”
This is just one of many examples of how to criticize each other. In doing so, it’s okay and perfectly right to let your counterpart know what’s bothering you. However, it should not become a constant nagging. Because then you should ask yourself whether this relationship still makes sense at all.
You have nothing more to say to each other …
This non-statement is also a sign that your relationship is on the brink of collapse. You have nothing more to say to each other? This is often due to the fact that the interest for his counterpart has decreased or perhaps even disappeared completely. The lack of communication often means the end of your relationship.
Relationship at the end: What now?
If you notice that things are difficult right now and that you are perhaps on the verge of breaking up, it is important that you make it clear to yourself what you want. Do you actually want to continue this relationship or not? If you decide for the former, fight! Talk to your partner about your concerns and feelings. Try to find a solution together and talk openly about everything that is on your mind. Important: Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. A change of perspective can sometimes work wonders. And above all, be willing to compromise. A relationship also means work.