Are you in a love relationship and wondering if it will last forever? Making the relationship work isn’t always the easiest thing. Some periods you feel the butterflies in your stomach living robbers, while other periods make you question your own existence. Having lived a third of my life with my partner by my side, half of that time as cohabitants, I’m a bit of a self-proclaimed relationship expert. That’s why I’m sharing my secrets to a long and happy relationship.
Perpetual compromise
For a relationship to work, you have to get to know each other deeply and know your own, and your partner’s, needs. A relationship is, as my partner always says at every conflict, “an eternal compromise”. However, this is something that is true and is also the key to a successful relationship. Knowing which situations you should stand up for yourself, or when you should give in is the be-all and end-all. This will save you negative energy that you can instead put into the fun bits of the relationship.
Don’t get stuck on the couch together
Even though there is a lot to be done in the limited hours of the day and all you want to do is dive into the couch with your favourite TV show, it is important to make the most of your time with each other. Do something out of the ordinary. Get out of the house and do something fun together, like hanging out with mutual friends or having a leisure activity together. A rich shared life, results in a more enjoyable relationship. My partner and I prioritise at least one day a week where we do something extra fun together.
Don’t forget to have a life of your own
As important as it is to have a life together, you also need your own. As with any relationship, you need time away from each other. Partly to have time to long for each other, but also to have time to take care of yourself. After all, you are the most important person in your own life. Get a hobby, go for your career, hang out with friends, or why not go for a long walk with your favourite podcast in your ears.
Surprise each other
Anything from the smallest thing like taking the dishes out for an extra spin, to going out for date night on a regular Thursday night will raise the standard of living and add a golden touch to your relationship. Showing appreciation is underrated and something that is easily taken for granted. Take advantage of days set aside for love such as birthdays, Valentine’s Day or why not name days to max out the relationship.
Be with your best friend
You know the person you can tell everything to, the person who is always up for it and there, the person who puts you first, who you want to be the best version of yourself with. That’s the person you should be in your relationship and the person you should be with. Your best friend and partner all in one.
