Every couple is unique, but some relationships we say are healthy, strong, beautiful, and balanced. What does it all mean? We most likely sum up the quality of a relationship by how the partners involved feel. Are they happy? Do they feel loved? We’ve prepared ten questions for you, and if you answer YES to these, your relationship is most likely mature and healthy.
These questions are based on several studies conducted by psychologists over the years analyzing couples’ dynamics. If you answer yes to these, you are among those who have succeeded in building a balanced, strong, healthy, and mature couple relationship.
Can you be yourself in your relationship?
Suppose you can be yourself in front of your partner without hiding your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. In that case, you feel safe, protected, and accepted in your relationship.
Moreover, if you don’t try to change but accept each other as you are, you are very compatible.
Are you understood when you can no longer keep your emotions in check?
Did you know that when crying and angry, a child looks its parent in the eye? This is because we need empathy, understanding, and acceptance, even when hurting and out of control.
If you’ve had a time of losing your temper and your partner has not responded to you in the mirror or otherwise said “with the same coin” but has waited for you to calm down and has treated the situation with gentleness and calmness, without belittling or ridiculing your emotions, well, surely there is true love and respect between you.
You are best friends, but at the same time, there is an attraction between you.
If you feel that you can tell your lover your secrets with the certainty that I remain safe and that he won’t change his mind about you, surely your connection is strong. Of course, recycling is also valid.
Are you similar when it comes to values in life?
Research says that it’s important to have similarities in core values in life, whether you have different likes, lifestyles, or even cultures. So if you see your family, with all its principles, your couple and your physical contact, and your life directions (e.g., living in the same city, country, etc.) as similar, your relationship is more likely to remain balanced and constructive.
Do you share “power” in the couple?
The power lies with the one who can decide. Either they decide what to do with their money, when and how to spend their holidays, or they can even make decisions that affect their everyday life, e.g., home arrangements, children, food, etc. Do you make these decisions together?
Do you feel like a team?
This feeling is a special one. And it’s one where you don’t fear betrayal, disappointment, and especially criticism. Even when you have joint activities, it’s impossible to be equally good in one area, so one of you will get better results in a shorter time. Is the “weaker” one supported?
Do you trust each other?
Or, in other words, is one of you jealous? Jealousy is a complex form of distrust in others and yourself. It is often linked to one or more forms of abuse (lying, checking each other’s phone and life, stalking, verbal or even physical aggression), etc.
Although it may seem harmless, jealousy is a serious matter.
Do you respect yourself?
Name-calling, possessiveness, and all those negative or even abusive behaviors cannot be present in a relationship where partners love each other, have a good impression of their partner, respect Them, and are interested in their well-being. Are these behaviors absent in your relationship?
Do you feel you are becoming a better person?
The effects of a strong relationship are beneficial, so both partners should feel that they are becoming better, that they are evolving spiritually, but also, in other areas, that they are becoming more fulfilled, balanced, and happy people.
Isn’t there anything important you would like to change in your partner?
Of course, there is no perfect person, so there will always be room for improvement in any relationship. But if your partner matches your core values and you wouldn’t want them to change radically in a major, important area of life, surely you can tolerate small differences.