Love is not a still lake. It’s a raging sea that challenges you and transforms you into the best version of yourself.
They say when you meet your soulmate, you’ll know by the deafening silence that will settle over the world. You’ll know you’ve found your other half when your soul no longer fears the unknown and chooses to take the exams the Universe has set for it on its own. Even if your soulmate seems so far away, sooner or later, you will find your way to each other.
Until then, here are the essential laws of love that you must learn, live and internalize.
Laws of love
Love takes the forms you need, not the forms you want
When thinking about love, most people imagine romantic, ideal love, the perfect wedding, the perfect marriage. The truth is, thankfully, love enters our lives in the form of the love we need most. This doesn’t mean, of course, that it can’t also come in the garb of a couple’s partner, but often, it comes as the Universe’s subtle responses to needs we may not be aware of. Such love can come in the form of a friendship; it can come from family; it can come from a child or a pet. All you have to do is not impose limits on love and welcome it into your life in the form the Universe has chosen to send it.
The bonds of love are shared beliefs and values.
Harmony in love means more than peace and lack of conflict between two people. It also means similarity, alignment, acceptance, and mutual completion of value sets and beliefs. These do not necessarily have to be identical, but they must at least be from similar spheres. Of course, it is said that extremes attract. Mind you, they attract, not love! There may be passion, attraction, and friendship between two people with opposed soul structures, but such ground is not conducive to love. At the same time, it is not suitable and desirable for one partner to ask the other to abandon their values and beliefs to align themselves with their own spiritual, intellectual, or moral standards. This brings us to the third sacred law.
Love changes lives and people by itself, without pressure.
Love, whatever its forms, has immense transformative power and can turn the darkest night into the brightest day with a bit of trust. The secret is that such transformations happen inherently, naturally. In other words, the third sacred law of love says don’t try to change the person you love, and don’t change yourself just so someone else will love an artificial version of you. The changes produced out of love happen simultaneously to both people, without either partner giving up their person.