ALL ABOUT COUPLES COUNSELLING

When is it necessary and how can couple psychotherapy help?

A couple’s partners come into the relationship with a personal history. They have already formed a set of norms and values acquired in their family of origin or as a result of life experiences that make them have certain expectations about the future that may differ more or less from those of their partner.

  • Reasons for seeking couples therapy/counselling:
  • Arguments or lack of communication
  • Infidelity
  • Indecision about whether or not to stay in the relationship
  • Jealousy
  • Verbal or physical violence
  • Disagreements about parenthood
  • Disrespect for individual freedoms
  • Toxic friends of one partner
  • Interventions of one partner’s family
  • Career
  • Family budget
  • When is couple psychotherapy required?
  • Premarital counselling – before the couple is formed
  • Couple counselling – when the couple is having problems
  • Individual counselling for a couple member – when the partner does not want to come to the psychologist or when you think you can solve problems without the partner’s help.
  • How can psychotherapy/couples counselling help?
  • Obviously, if you have turned to couples psychotherapy, it means that you are experiencing some problems. These are discussed and you try to find a solution together that suits both partners. In order to achieve results, the approach includes two approaches, one personal and one couple approach.

In the personal approach, the aim is to:

  • Assessing the problems and dividing them according to seriousness
  • Assessment of the way of communication
  • Moving from communication that includes: bad words, hatred, anger, blaming, offense, high tone to a solution focused communication.
  • Role-play to discover how the problem is seen from the partner’s point of view
  • Finding solutions that suit both partners
  • Discussing the solutions found personally within the couple
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In couple meetings:

  • Increasing assertive communication
  • Increasing active listening
  • Rediscovering affectionate communication
  • Developing solution-focused communication
  • Trying to understand each other’s point of view
  • Finding and presenting the most accurate and assertive solutions for the couple, based on the consensus of both parties.
  • Active support and willingness to develop partner(s)’ motivation for problem solving